Coaching Yourself With Love

Coaching yourself with love

Here’s the Thing…

A few months ago I was at my brother’s high school basketball game. It was a close game at first, but by the second half, my brother’s team was doing really really well.

Not surprisingly, the other team’s coach was NOT happy about it. He was super frustrated with his team and got to the point where he would just shake his head each time something went wrong.

I didn’t really blame him.

But then, his team started doing better! Yet, his pessimistic attitude remained the same.

I was disgusted with his behavior because his team was really trying hard to do better, and he didn’t even care. How must that make those teenage athletes feel?

The more I thought about it, the more I realized how perfect of an illustration the whole situation was for our own lives.

Coaching Yourself

You may have people rooting for you or helping you out along the way, but at the end of the day, you are the coach of your own life.

You have the power to shake your head or clap for yourself.

You have the power to acknowledge when you are working hard or beat yourself up for not being perfect.

You get to decide how you treat yourself.

I get it: when it rains it pours. But when that silver lining starts poking out, you better believe I am soaking up every bit & giving myself recognition.

No, I’m not perfect at coaching myself, but if you are constantly looking at the downside of every situation, you are going to be living a very sad life.

Finding the Silver Lining

I’m not going to lie: sometimes I have really bad days.

I don’t want to get out of bed.

I feel overwhelmed.

I made a mistake.

The list goes on and on about all the ways I can beat myself up.

But I have to keep moving forward, and you do too.

Here are a few of my favorite tips on how to be the best personal coach you can be.

Acknowledge Your Flaws

Nobody is perfect.

The sooner you can come to terms with where you can improve, the more equipped you will be with treating yourself with more kindness.

Practice Self-Care

One minute you feel like you have a handle on your life, the next, it feels like it’s all spinning out of control. Sometimes today is just too much. And that’s okay.

Just because today is hard doesn’t mean tomorrow will be the same.

But *today* you may need to show yourself a little extra love. Do what YOU need to do for YOU in order to rejuvenate and prepare for tomorrow.

Self-care is not selfish.

Have a Support System

As much as we want to think that we can handle life all on our own, we really can’t. That’s why you need to find that person you can go to when things get rough.

You can try all you want, but some days you will not be the best person to coach yourself. Sometimes, you will need another person to affirm you when you can’t love yourself properly.

I can’t stress enough how important it is to have a support system in place because sometimes the only way to get through the day is with another person.

So That’s the Thing…

The moral of the story is, don’t be like that coach.

Yes, acknowledge your setbacks so that you can improve for the future, but don’t dwell on them.

When something is going well or you overcome a challenge, don’t be modest; celebrate! Even if your celebration is something simple such as going out for ice cream or taking a long bath.

You can work as hard as you want, and yet, you are never going to be perfect.

But you don’t have to be defined by your imperfections. Instead, coach yourself how you would coach your best friend: with love & encouragement.